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One of my monthly resolutions is saying ‘Yes!’ to all the things for a day. This week, I’m taking it to the next level and I’ve extended ‘Yes!-day’ to an entire 7 days.
I always get excited about it: I imagine saying ‘Yes!’ to the most awesome things. Yes, I’ll go on a date with a handsome stranger! Yes, I’d love to travel to New Guinea for free! Yes, I absolutely dig that job with a six-figure pay!
But those things don’t happen. Or they didn’t happen yet. Stay positive, Yo!
I thought that Yes! Day meant I’d had to be affirmative all of the time – all day, or all week long. Of course, I can set some restrictions: saying Yes! to things illegal, dangerous or just plain stupid would be quite the irresponsible thing to do. As is saying Yes! to whatever is costing me more money than I have in my pocket (mostly none to little), or things that cost me money, final.
Other than that, I thought there was no room for a the uber-negative word “No” is.
Except… is it really?
We associate naysayers with the grumpy, the mad, the angry. But sometimes ‘No!’ I the most loving response we can give. To avoid confusion, however, let’s lay out a short manual of when to use what…
- When you get offered a chance to step outside of your comfort zone. An unexpected offer to go hiking or meet up with a long lost pal, might be just that.
- When your whole entire being wants you to say yes. People tend to say you need to listen to your heart, but you actually can ‘feel’ what you want in your third chakra or the Solar plexus, located about 3 inches above your navel.
- When you can connect with other people. Especially when we are down and out, we lean towards being alone. And even though alone time is necessary from time to time, being around people with great moods and spirits can be uplifting.
- When you have an opportunity to grow: take a class, attend a seminar. Being open to change, is valuable for when life hits us with truly life changing events.
- When you’d be putting yourself and others in danger. Nothing is worth the probability of losing a limb… or worse.
- When you’d harm yourself or others by the action. Stay away from protest, from anger, from viciousness.
- When the opportunity doesn’t resonate with you. Even if a million people would take the offer, it might not be for you – and that’s OK. Again, you’ll know. Examine how it makes you feel. And choose for ‘you’.
I bet you frown. Choosing you sounds like the most selfish thing to do. And it is – but it’s also vital that you do.
You may not pay attention anymore to the inflight safety instructions on a plane (I know I don’t) but you know who’s oxygen mask to put on first in case of an emergency: yours.
That’s right. I’ve said it: the most important person on this planet is you.
So in a week with a lot of Yesses – I might throw in a couple of ‘No’s’ – just because I’m a rebel… and the right amount of selfish.
PS: Are you all taking massive good care of yourselves? Do you realize that you are the most important person in your life, or do you often forget?
PPS: my favorite read today was Michelle from Fit is the New Poor’s post about the Evolving Shopping List!